“The mother wound is about not being able to fully integrate and embody the feminine energy.
This pain is passed down through generations of women who lived in patriarchal cultures. ”
Difficulties and challenges between mothers and daughters are often not spoken about openly. The taboo of talking about the pain of the mother wound keeps it in place and keeps it hidden in the shadows.
What is the Mother Wound?
In a patriarchal, male-dominated culture, women are conditioned to think of themselves as “less-than” and not deserving or worthy. This feeling of “less-than” has been internalized and passed down through countless generations of women.
This is not an offend to men, or the masculine energy, both are worthy. It is merely an objective observation of how our societies have been organized over the past centuries. There is so much to this, for example the witch burning. If that goes to far for you, there is also the women vote right, the right to learn and work.
Times are changing, thankfully, but we most not ignore the Mother Wound. When you ignore a wound, it starts to rot. So much was left unspoken between mothers and daughters, because mothers had to keep their children (physically and mentally) safe.
This was with the best intention, not knowing that this keeping back and holding in actually made our body and society ill. We ignored the sacredness of the feminine energy.
Now, we are here to illuminate the feminine energy as a new age arises. The Mother Wound is something that can be spoken about, and only then, when it is allowed to come into the Light, it can be healed.
My Mother Wound Story
The Mother Wound theme came up as I was talking with a friend about the process of awakening, and in particular my own story of turning from a legal assistant into an Intuitive writer.
I recall the day I went to my parents’ house to tell them I had written and self-published a poetry book. And what kind of poetry book?! A deep spiritual and awakening poetry collection.
Although I was an adult, this was back in 2020, and I had three childeren of my own, I still felt like a child at that moment.
‘How would my parents respond?’ – ‘What would they think about me?’. These thoughts crossed my mind all of the time and really made me nervous. I was afraid to show my true face and was convinced I would tear up the perfect picture they had of their daughter.
This, I especially felt with my mother, who had worked hard to give her children a good life and education. Something that was not common in the time she was growing up and had fought hard for to achieve.
I had quit my job overnight at that point a year ago, because I could no longer ignore myself and play a role in my own life. My parents knew I had quit my job, but they did not know I had been writing (about spirituality) ever since.
This is also characteristic of the mother wound. The daughter doesn’t want to risk losing her mother’s love and approval, so internalizing these limiting, unconscious beliefs is a form of loyalty and emotional survival for the daughter.
I did not tell my parents that I was writing because I was afraid they would say that I couldn’t earn a living with that kind of work and that would kill my dream instantly.
Perhaps, this were just my own thoughts, because what happened was quite different.
Patriarchy to Matriarchy
When I showed them my book they were full of AWE and were very excited! They were so joyful to see their daughter happy and were proud of me. They couldn’t believe I actually wrote and created a whole book! My parents were surprised in a positive way!
I read one of the poems and my mother cried. She almost never cries. She learned to not show her emotions in her childhood. This was just the way it was back in those days. Same goes for hugging and kissing – openly expressing your love for someone whether it was a partner, friend or child – it was not done.
At least, not in the family I grew up in. Of course I was and am loved, but it is a mental love, not a physically experienced love. My parents did not learn from their parents how to show their affection from a soulful place.
I believe the church and religion also had part in this, because it was very much based on sin and us being sinners. Some churches still practice and share this belief. But we no longer buy it, and that is why you see a huge shift from religion to spirituality and patriarchy to matriarchy taking place.
This is also the reason you now see so many waking up. They feel a calling that comes from deep within their Soul. A rediscovery of their Essence. But this time it is different than it was in the the time of Atlantis.
Now we are asked to balance the masculine and the feminine energy. It is important this time not to tip the scales to one of the two sides, but to balance in the middle.
Female Lineage
Back to me reading the poem to my mother. The words touched her deeply because her sister just passed away and she hadn’t been able to say goodbye and hold her hand because of the Covid Pandemic. The poem I read to her was the Poem ‘Put your Hands in my Hands’ from my poetry book Between Worlds.
The very act of me opening up and showing my true face and heart actually brought me and my mother closer together. It gave my mother the opportunity to also open up and let her pain and grief show. It healed a part of us and our Mother Wound right there and then.
I feel so grateful now. I am able to do what my mother and my female ancestors had not been able to do. In my sacred space meditation I telepathically heard my grandmother say: ‘Do what we weren’t able to do.’
This made massive impact on me! Our ancestors paved the way for us and now we are asked to honor them and ourselves by not ignoring what we feel and hear, but to walk the path of enlightment.
We live in a time where it is (more) safe to follow your heart and show what you are truly about. Our mothers and grandmothers had kept their heart hidden because it was not safe for them to show their love and vulnerability openly with the world they lived in.
Many of us inherented this hiding pattern and it comes to expression in the Mother Wound.
Mother’s Day and the Mother Wound
This pain, expressed as a pattern, comes more to the surface when the energy of Mother’s Day arrives.
Society stimulates us to buy gifts for our mothers to show them our love and respect. But do we? Are we aware of the story of our mother, and the mothers of our mother? Do we take time to tune into this?
Are we willing and present enough to feel it. Not only the love, but also the hurt of that what could not have been expressed for many lifetimes?
Do we give a gift because we feel obligated to do so, or do we give a gift from our heart and soul. Look each other in the eye, and truly recognizing and seeing each other, and our feminine scar and essence?
It takes small steps and actions to heal the mother wound. It does not have to be something big. Like me reading a poem from my book to my mother seemed like a small thing, bus was actually a BIG thing which shifted energy, karma and timelines in a very profound way.
It changed the course on the roadmap of my blueprint. We came to this Earth with a mission and assignment, yes, but not everything is settled yet. We have to do the healing work right here, right now.
Spiritual healing work
Our mothers are portals. They brought us into this life. We chose our mother and family legacy before we incarnated. The story contributes to the particular life lesson we are here to learn in this lifetime; a subject of healing.
With Mother’s Day coming up there is a window of opportunity to feel into the female energy of your lineage. This tells so much about the Mother’s Wound and where you can heal and grow more into your Soul.
What is it for you? Do you know? Are you even aware of it.
You don’t have to know it all in this very instant. You don’t have to ‘fix’ life and the Mother Wound in just a sec. What life asks from you is to be present. To be open and vulnerable. To become aware of what truly matters,
feel into it, and don’t run away from it any longer.
Heal and Write
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I invite you to start now and keep writing. You can repeat the exercises after a couple of weeks or months, or whenever you feel called to it. Life is always in motion. These exercises help you to tune into how you feel about these life topics at any moment in time.
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What we heal for ourselves, we also heal for our mother and mothers of our mother
and the next generations to come.
You don’t only give yourself this Gift, but it is a Gift to the entire female lineage.
This is my offer to you this Mother’s Day:
From my heart to yours. Namasté and a Happy Mother’s Day.